It is only by preserving faith in human dreams that we may, after all, perhaps some day make them come true.      James Branch Cabell

It is only by preserving faith in human dreams that we may, after all, perhaps some day make them come true.    
 James Branch Cabell

Some of us flee from love’s touch for a maze of reasons, or shy away from a commitment that looms over us like car payments. Some of us unconsciously ward off love, while we consciously long for it with all our hearts.In the end, we must have enough faith in ourselves (and in whatever God of Love we believe in) to dare to love.
— Daniel Moore
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Happiness is all in your perspective,  isn’t it?           Chellie Campbell            La Boulange Patio at the Metreon   Photo: Lynne Azpeitia

Challenges are gifts that force us to search for a new center of gravity. Don’t fight them. Just find a different way to stand.
— Oprah
It’s not the load that breaks you down, it’s the way you carry it.
— Lena Horne

Stresses Gifted Adults Face

One of the hardest things in life is having words in
your heart that  
you can't utter.
 
James Earl Jones

After working with gifted, creative, multi-talented people for more than ten years, I know that to create a meaningful and successful life gifted adults must do three things: 

  • Understand themselves, their special abilities and unique needs;
  • Learn how to meet their needs and manage their relationships;
  • Learn to use themselves and their talents for their own advantage.

When gifted adults have not mastered those three things, their life is exceedingly stressful.                                                                                                                                               

To be valued within a peer culture which values conformity, gifted young people may mask their giftedness and develop alternative identities which are perceived as more socially acceptable.
                                   Miraca Gross

Encouraging, supporting and guiding gifted, talented and creative adults to achieve their goals and realize their dreams by identifying and working through blocks and conflicts and developing skills for dealing with and solving their problems and challenges is what gifted adults need to thrive and develop their potential. 

The greatest success is successful
 
self-acceptance.                 Ben Sweet

While peers, teachers, mentors, and significant others may admire the many contributions gifted people make, they may also have inappropriate and overly inflated expectations for gifted adults and can fail to provide key instruction, support, and encouragement. 

Constant striving to live up to self-expectations--or those of others-- to be first, best, or both can be very stressful.
                Leslie S. Kaplan

When this occurs, this is exceedingly stressful for gifted adults who may expect themselves to live up to these standards and believe that they are failures or not gifted if they do not. 

I've never sought success in order to get fame and money; it's the talent and the passion that count in success.       
                               Ingrid Bergman                                                   

 Coaching and psychotherapy with an informed gifted adult therapist or coach can help gifted adults break free from this extreme pressure and pattern of inappropriate expectations and standards.

The capacity to develop strong and lasting friendships cannot develop in the gifted individual until she herself has experienced the glad peace of being understood and accepted by "kindred spirits"--people of similar abilities, values & interests.      
                                 
Miraca Gross                 

 Are you wondering if you, or someone you know or love, has been misdiagnosed–or properly diagnosed? 

To schedule an appointment, begin coaching or arrange a free phone consultation, email Lynne or call her at 310-828-7121

Lynne Azpeitia, MFT
310-828-7121 
 3025 Olympic Blvd, Santa Monica, CA 90404 

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Lynne Azpeitia 
The Gifted Adult Coach
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Lynne@Gifted-Adults.com

Change is the end result of all true learning. Change involves three things: first, a dissatisfaction with self — a felt void or need; second, a decision to change — to fill the void or need; and third, a conscious dedication to the process of growth and change — the willful act of making the change: doing something.
— Leo Buscaglia
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It is not hard work which is dreary; it is superficial work.         Edith Hamilton

For those who are on this journey it is important to have faith in yourself and your inner compass that guides you. If you do this, you’ll understand that opportunities for growth and happiness lie in the most unexpected places, ready to be seized if you’re open to recognizing and embracing them.
— Ron Alexander

Existential Depression in Gifted Individuals
James T. Webb, Ph.D.
 
It has been my experience that gifted and talented persons are more likely to experience a type of depression referred to as existential depression. Although an episode of existential depression may be precipitated in anyone by a major loss or the threat of a loss which highlights the transient nature of life, persons of higher intellectual ability are more prone to experience existential depression spontaneously… More

Helping Gifted Students with Stress Management 
Leslie S. Kaplan
 
Many gifted youngsters have a heightened sensitivity to their surroundings, to events, to ideas, and to expectations. Some experience their own high expectations for achievement as a relentless pressure to excel. Constant striving to live up to self-expectations--or those of others-- to be first, best, or both can be very stressful … More

Is Your Child Anxious Because They’re Gifted?
Rich Priesta

A child who is operating at an advanced intellectual, emotional or imaginational level may find it difficult to fit in. When compared to their peers, gifted children may have different interests, hobbies, ways of expressing themselves – in fact, they may just seem like they’re operating on a whole other level. That can make fitting in, making friends, and feeling “normal” almost impossible, all of which can lead to anxiety and depression. More

 Overexcitability and the Gifted
 
Sharon Lind 
 .....Overexcitabilities are inborn intensities indicating a heightened ability to respond to stimuli. Found to a greater degree in creative and gifted individuals, overexcitabilities are expressed in increased sensitivity, awareness, and intensity, and represent a real difference in the fabric of life and quality of experience. Dabrowski identified five areas of intensity-Psychomotor, Sensual, Intellectual, Imaginational, and Emotional. A person may possess one or more of these. “One who manifests several forms of overexcitability, sees reality in a different, stronger and more multisided manner”...More 

Do Nothing Day
 
Chellie Campbell
 
After I had the revelation about my habit of getting sick in order to get out of commitments, I decided I had to change my behavior. I had to learn to say “No” to more things and break the cycle of over-commitment. I had to focus on my priorities, and one of them had to be my health. I took a long, hard look at my calendar and all the activities I planned each week. I realized I was on the go too much—even with fun things. I needed more “do nothing time.”  .... So I created “Do Nothing Day.”...More

Ten Zen Seconds Meditations  

 Stanford Commencement Address
 
Steve Jobs 
I am honored to be with you today at your commencement from one of the finest universities in the world. I never graduated from college. Truth be told, this is the closest I've ever gotten to a college graduation. Today I want to tell you three stories from my life. That's it. No big deal. Just three stories.
The first story is about connecting the dots.  I dropped out of Reed College after the first 6 months, but then stayed around as a drop-in for another 18 months or so before I really quit. So why did I drop out?
It started before I was born.....More

 Bill Watterson's Uplifting Advice To College Grads, Illustrated In 'Calvin & Hobbes' Style
Creating a life that reflects your values and satisfies your soul is a rare achievement.......More