Love is what you've been through with somebody.
In addition to seeing, talking to or being an experienced and well trained couples therapist you might want to explore some of the books written about increasing couple intimacy, learning conflict resolution skills and developing effective communication patterns.
A number of excellent and practical books for increasing couple intimacy and marital satisfaction have been published and continue to be published by well respected and knowledgeable experts in the field.
Couples wishing to better their relationship or marriage will find the following articles and books interesting, informative and useful.
Marriage is no way of life for the weak, the selfish, or the insecure. Sidney Poitier
Any therapist working with couples who are married, remarried, dating or living together or thinking about any of those will find will find the articles and books listed below and on these pages to be an interesting treasure trove of effective and inspiring treatment approaches for working with couples.
Enjoy this bounty of guides from my very own bookshelf.
These books include Developmental, Narrative, Cognitive, Family
Systems, Bowenian, Transpersonal, Psychodynamic, PAIRS, Voice Dialogue
and other approaches.
The following books and articles are quite useful to me as well as to the couples I work with in my psychotherapy and coaching practice, I hope you will find them useful, too.