To schedule an appointment or arrange a free phone consultation, email Lynne or call her at 310-828-7121
Marriage & Relationship Counseling: Make Love Last
Increasing Couple Intimacy & Satisfaction
Falling In Love Is Easy
Staying in Love Is Something Very Special
Help for Couples
Marriage Counseling and Couples Therapy can help you to improve your relationship, repair past hurts, manage your conflicts and understand each other better.
Feeling Alone Or Frustrated In Your Relationship?
Think Your Marriage Needs Reviving?
Tired of Arguing Or Having The Same Fights?
Want To Make Your Relationship Better?
Need Better Communication?
Want More Love, Support & Affection?
These are many of the concerns and hopes expressed by the couples I see every day in marriage and relationship counseling.
Many times couples wait too long to come for counseling. Don't let that happen to you.
You can get your relationship back on track with relationship counseling that supports and repairs troubled marriages and committed relationships--and strengthens happy ones.
Couples come for relationship or marriage counseling and therapy to
--have better communication
--learn relationship skills
--get along better
--have more caring, affection and closeness
--make their relationship better--or more like it used to be
But most of all, couples come to make love last.
Real-life romance is fueled by a far more humdrum approach to staying connected. It is kept alive each time you let your spouse know he or she is valued during the grind of everyday life.
Yes, all couples come for therapy to experience, develop and increase the level of intimacy and satisfaction they experience in their relationships.
This is true of all couples--married, dating, living together, straight, gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgendered.
However, when couples come to therapy to work on their relationships or marriage they most often request help with communication.
Why do so many couples ask for communication skills and intimacy training when they come to therapy?
Couples ask for skills and training in how to talk and express caring because they want to feel and be close to their partner--and they have some awareness that clearly communicating and intimately connecting with their partner on a continuous basis is an important ingredient in successful coupling and marital satisfaction.
Couples are right about this.
We start out intensely connected to and responsive to our partners. But our level of attentiveness tends to drop off over time. We then experience moments of disconnection, times when we don't express our needs clearly.
In couple relationships and marriages, the ongoing practice of sharing, receiving and affirming each member of the couple’s personal experience is positively correlated with relational satisfaction, health, and longevity.
However, the majority of couples do not begin their relationship or marriage equipped with intimacy, communication and conflict resolution skills, they must learn them.
Yes, love and commitment isn't enough to insure a healthy, happy, enduring marriage.
Unless you constantly communicate, signaling to your partner where you are and getting a recognizable message in return, you will lose each other along the way.
Wayne & Mary Sotile
Intimacy, communication and conflict resolution skills, which are so necessary to the vitality of each person and the couple or marital relationship, must be learned and used if the relationship or marriage is to become and remain intimate. There is no substitute for this.
Successful couples are those who know how to discuss their differences in ways that actually strengthen their relationship and improve intimacy.
How can couples learn the skills to talk, listen, express their caring and to manage conflicts?
How can a therapist provide couples with the skills to talk about what they feel, need, want, and appreciate when they seek therapy?
What is the most effective treatment for working with couples?
Therapists, who are marriage friendly and relationship friendly, are expert in working with couples and the issues they face through out their couple relationship life cycle are well equipped to handle and answer these questions and issues--and to recommend books that support relationships.
To find out more about marriage counseling or couples therapy, and get answers to your questions, contact Lynne Azpeitia at (310) 828-7121 to make an appointment or to find out how she can help.
Lynne Azpeitia, MFT
3025 Olympic Blvd, Santa Monica, CA 90404
Coaching, Psychotherapy & Consultation
Coaching, Counseling & Consulting Services Also Available by Phone & Skype
- The therapist is caring and compassionate to both of you.
- The therapist actively tries to help your marriage and communicates hope that you solve your marital problems. This goes beyond just clarifying your problems.
- The therapist is active in structuring the session.
- The therapist offers reasonable and helpful perspectives to help you understand the sources of your problems.
- The therapist challenges each of you about your contributions to the problems and about your capacity to make individual changes to resolve the problems.
- The therapist offers specific strategies for changing your relationship, and coaches you on how to use them.
- The therapist is alert to individual matters such as depression, alcoholism, and medical illness that might be influencing your marital problems.
- The therapist is alert to the problem of physical abuse and assesses in individual meetings whether there is danger to one of the spouses.
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Give Lynne a call today & have a conversation with her about Couples Counseling, Marriage Therapy or Relationship Counseling
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